Lack of agency can lead to lack of self-control

If we want to raise healthy, high-agency children, we should give them the freedom to make decisions without removing them from the consequences of those decisions. Giving children agency now will help them avoid a dark cycle of work, pain, and reckless release in the future. Even if a life of indulgent hedonism is fun in the short-term, it ultimately leaves a void in the heart.

Also, a hint of setting healthy expectations for yourself and kids, rather than being too lofty.

Original source: The Price of Discipline