When saying “no,” ask yourself “what else do I have going on that’s so important?” – often, we’re tired and just want to go home and stare at something (a book, TV, a drink, our spouse, food, etc.). Or, maybe we don’t want to try out something new. There’s plenty of reasons to say no to new things, or just different things, but you should try to ask yourself what else you have going on that’s worth taking a pass for. What’s so great about just going home instead of to that work happy hour?
Let your friend be unreliable, and remember if they are – we often think that we should be able to rely on our friends. They’re not co-workers, they’re people we enjoy spending time with. Many friends will actually be “reliable” (they’ll show up when they say they will, with a truck to help you move if you’re luck), but many will also be unreliable. The unreliable ones will “flake” on you, whether by simply forgetting or by coming up with perfectly valid, but very convenient excuses. Don’t let these flakes turn you off if the friendship is otherwise good. But, don’t let yourself rely on them just because they’re friends. Know that they’re flakes, and keep chummy with them nonetheless.
Avoiding bike shed topics – Talking is fun, and talking in a group is fun as well. Often, when you’re in the thick of trying to get something done, everyone in a group thinks they should give input into a trivial decision (what color the bike shed should be painted, for example). There are often better ways for you to spend your time, and the group’s if “it” could decide as such. When you see people getting involved in bike shed topics (you don’t really care what the decision is as long as one is made and, really, it could be any decision), just drop out and do something more important. Even trying to stop people can be a waste of time: you can probably do something more important.
Of course, if it’s fun and you’re in need of fun, go for it.
(See Parkinson’s Law of Triviality from which this is derived.)
Keep the little rules – There’s no end of little rules you have to keep: fashion, law, properly filling out forms, putting the toilet seat down. Though it may seem tedious and, at times, like you’re giving in to flawed reasoning, you should follow most of these little rules. It’ll save time (the world is optimized around these little rules, and rebellion of any sort of time consuming) and then when you want to break the big rules, they’ll at least have to say you have a good track record.
Always walk around like you know where you’re going – First you’ll get there faster because you’ll be moving faster. Second, people will stop you less because, obviously, you don’t need their help an should be going there. Third, if you don’t actually know where you’re going, just picking some direction and speeding off towards it will get you somewhere.
The Girlfriend Jacket – guys, how many times has this happened to you on a cold night? You’re leaving the house, you ask your special lady friend if she’d like her jacket as you’re putting yours – she says “no.” A few hours later, you two are walking along, she’s warm and cozy, wearing your jacket, and you’re cold. Jason Cohen pointed this principal out to me a long time ago: just bring her jacket for her. The general idea applies applies to many things, like strollers (“we don’t need it, I’ll just hold him!” she says).
(The gender here doesn’t matter: it could be the boyfriend jacket, or the scary uncle jacket – whatever you like.)
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And in a bureaucracy, you think the work is done when it goes out of your in-basket into somebody else’s in-basket. But, of course, it isn’t. It’s not done until AT&T delivers what it’s supposed to deliver. So you get big, fat, dumb, unmotivated bureaucracies.
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